Last night was rough for me. My knees and hips were hurting more than usual, and I have a cold, which is not the end of the world but is causing me a certain amount of anxiety since I am scheduled for surgery on Tuesday. At one o'clock in the morning, I managed to hit my head on my sink faucet (don't ask) and it sent me straight to tears of embarrassment and exhaustion and frustration. If you add the entire cup of coffee that my typically caffeine-free body drank last night to this equation, you understand why I was having significant trouble sleeping and feeling especially anxious about my health.
Symptoms affect me at all hours of the day, but the nights always seem to be the most miserable. There is something about the darkness that makes pain feel like it might never end. Realistically, I know that this seemingly negative outlook might be true. The most honest thing might be pain for all of this life. There may never be a day where I wake up and feel just like my friends do. There may never be a day in which I have all of the energy and strength of a healthy person.
|One of my favorite theological images:|
Mary consoling Eve.
When I was recently describing my pet-friendly Episcopal church in New Orleans to a friend, I excitedly revealed, "I get to go to mass and sit behind a chihuahua. That is my heaven!" Even though it sounded (and was) ridiculous, I like to think that there is a place for that sort of thing in the full presence of God. I like to think that all of the chords in each hymn sound perfect and even the smallest creatures are welcomed in. I like to think that I get to sing "O Come All Ye Faithful" while harmonizing with the entire world and dancing with my cat. And I like to think that there are no swollen knees or unreliable ankles or achy hips. And I like to think that everyone's fingers can turn the pages of the Book of Common Prayer without any stiffness.
Normally during the Christmas season I find myself so fixated on the human embodiment of God that the other parts of the Nativity sort of become a blurred story in my mind. But this year, I have found myself concentrating a lot on Mary. Perhaps it is because the recent political climate has rooted me further in my identity as a girl and as a woman. I think a lot about what Mary must have felt and how terrified she must have been. I think a lot about how God placed so much power in such a young girl. Although I am certainly no Mary, keeping her in my mind during miserable nights of congestion and joint pain and fear seems to make things a little easier. She is already in that wonderful place that I am allowed the privilege of glimpsing into, and sometimes I find myself jealous of all that she knows now. Growing up Baptist, no one in my religious community ever placed a lot of emphasis on Mary, but lately I have been participating in a lot of more traditional services and communities that focus on her regularly. So at night, when everything hurts and I am afraid of surgeries being cancelled and I am longing for something purer and better, I find myself clinging to Mary, who I am sure had her fair share of sleepless nights and pain and tears. I wonder what she is like and pray that I will be able to meet her one day.
Happy holidays, dear friends. I wish you more good days than bad ones and more health than pain. And if you find yourself alone and hurting on a dark winter night, it just might be worth thinking of Mary.